A signal, half-static, fading with dawn.



Star Trek.

Mind blown.

[user avatar] Anonymous:

hey if you don't mind answering. what's wrong with the statement "real men don't hurt women" or other variations? i see many criticisms of it, but they don't make sense.

[user avatar] maarnayeri:

Hey. Sure allow me to explain.

First of all, its glaringly untrue. Real men do hurt women. The distinction between “real” vs. whatever the opposite of real is in this context is moot when men are raised in a patriarchal culture that drills into their psyche a set of prescribed gender roles that is bound to affect their perception and treatment of women. In fact, many of them validate their own sense of masculinity by instilling domination and enacting violence against women.

Secondly, this phrase is usually uttered in condemnation of blatantly violent acts of women (ie. sex trafficking and murder), but the casual aggressions that the vast majority of women deal with is never accounted for when talking about real vs. fake men, because at that point, it becomes painfully obvious that most men do gleefully engage in misogynistic behavior. What I mean by this is what about the rampant objectification of women in media and literature? What about casual rape jokes? What about street harassment and the fact that in most surveys in many regions of the world, well over 90% of women admit they are verbally or physically aggressed by a man and feel pressured to comply due to fear of backlash? What about domestic violence occurring in one third of all hetero relationships?

At what point does a “real man” not engage in belittling a woman? When it causes death or permanently entraps her in a life of misery? Is there is no space between the former and living in a world free of anti women rhetoric? The phrase doesn’t tackle all the grey area between the aforementioned and peak destruction, when in fact, its subtle microaggressions that become catalysts for cases like that of UCSB shooter, who killed women and men who associated with said women. Many men who commit grave offenses against women left hints and context clues that they were misogynists and had deeply depraved understandings of women and many don’t take heed to them until its too late.

Going back to the former point, separating real from unreal men is about protecting the concept of masculinity instead of women. Its a really coy way of derailing dignified discourse concerning the well being of women to centralizing the conversation about how “not all men are like that” when in fact, patriarchy creates the very real possibility that all men can be like that and many are. It concretizes the existence of masculinity, instead of realizing that the male pursuit of being the strongest and most victorious does in fact lead to devastating consequences, many of them gendered.

Saying “real men don’t do (x)” is a feel good, self centered mechanism that men use to relieve themselves of critically examining the world we live in and how their roles as both beneficiaries and agents of misogyny sustains a world where such violence is possible. The unreal men are to be tackled, instead of a poisonous culture that has validated them since inception. Since we say “boys will be boys” and reassuring young girls that if a boy picks on her, he must be infatuated, thus equating abuse with love. This approach treats the vast cases of globalized, politicized, socialized and institutionalized sexism as isolated incidences in an apolitical vacuum which individual males are a shame to manhood, instead of byproducts of manhood.

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Mean Serenity

On Wednesdays, we wear brown.

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My Mask // The Congress 

Sunday afternoons are for discovering obscure tracks featuring John Darnielle. There are, apparently, about 100 songs (six albums, one of which contains some sort of opera(?)) by The Congress, a band featuring JD as a singer/songwriter and multi-instrumentalist Mark Givens. Unfortunately, there only seems to be six tracks floating around the internet. I LIE IN HOPE FOR OTHERS TO EMERGE.

The song that John mentioned (and tried to recite) in his Fresh Air Interview.

I’m sorry about the fact that I love obscure John Darnielle songs.

(No, I’m not.)







I love how the Addams Family has ZERO slut-shaming. Like… honey you can dance naked and enslave someone with your womanly charms if you want to, I don’t fucking care, but so help me you’re going to get a college education first.


The Addamses are what every family should aspire to be like (you know; without the dismemberment and electric chairs as play time).  Honestly, have you ever seen more unconditionally loving and supportive parents than Gomez and Morticia?  And not just with the kids, but with each other.  I think what’s especially unique about them is how open they are with everything.  They don’t treat their children like children.  They treat them like they treat everyone else; direct, and to the point. 

It’s creepy how many good examples of parenting and romantic relationships there is in these characters, especially considering they are supposed to be the antithesis of the stereotypical American nuclear family.